First of all, I am really sorry to all my readers for not posting any new post. Well, life here in Mumbai is really very busy and sometimes you find it difficult to manage your hobby.
Well, the idea of writing this topic i.e., "Marriages in India" struck to my mind this afternoon when I was discussing something with my dad.
India which, traditionally speaking, support not only the institution of marriage but also nurture it despite increasing influence of Western culture in the country. This may be attributed to globalization of culture.
At more micro level i.e., at individual level, what is happening in India is role conflict( Working mother in urban India or wife with little or no income in rural India). Further to this, every boy or a girl of marriageable age in India has formed an image of ideal wife or husband in their mind.
An ideal wife should be like this : face of Aishwarya Rai, height of Sushmita Sen, Financial aptitude of Chanda Kochher.
An ideal husband should be like this: face of Salman Khan, height and muscles of John Abraham, talented as Amir Khan, Financially like Mukesh Ambani etc.
One can think of some other combinations also as described above.
Broadly speaking, everybody likes to have the best combination one can think of.
Now the real life situation i.e., the bitter reality of life, as marriages are mostly arranged in India, there will be a marathon race for selection of bride/ bridegroom through the process of rejection.
Preliminary round with ideal images in the mind of a boy/ girl, parents as well as other key relatives will commence the so called swayamvar ( a sanskrit word meaning self choice/desire) to get best son-in-law or daughter -in-law for themselves.
Frankly speaking, it is very tiring and very formal way of selection in which the would-be husband or wife will portray himself/herself with all the virtues in this world , dignity, plastic/artificial smile, rehearsal to give desired answer to some very general questions like do you know how to cook, your education profile, expectation from me etc., posing to suit the latest style in the market and what not. There will be many rounds of talks with
every possibility of elimination at each stage.
With lot of trials and tribulations, slowly the so called ideal images started getting fainted in the minds of the boy / girl with no clarity of thought. Every round of discussion and deliberation creates more confusion and with every rejection there is a feeling of dejection. low spirit in the mind of the boy/ girl and the ideal looks distant and more distant.
Thereafter, a stage comes when the boy/ girl will reduce his/her scale of choice so as to fit them-self into the situation rather than the other way round.
Finally, there will be a great compromise which we call in India as "MARRIAGE"
After marriage with staying together for a while, the compatibility is usually established between the married couple . That is why there is a general belief in India that arranged marriages are more successful than love marriages in the country.
I think what is most important for any marriage to be meaningful and successful is having love for each other, love for each other's feelings, love for each other's parents, love for each other's success and failure. Stay together, float together, sink together.
This is again an ideal situation i think i am talking about. Bye for now as I have to stop here my wife is calling me. Catch you people soon, Coming sweetheart...